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How many times have you wondered after talking to a person whether the person really listened to you? In a world that is changing fast, our attention seems to be getting shorter and communication harder. Here are few simple rules and tips that you can use to keep your listener’s attention to you while you talk.
We all want to be admired. We want to be appreciated. We all want to feel important. This is true for everyone. This is what you must keep in mind when you talk to anyone. And most importantly, when you want people to listen to what you have to say, you must remember one thing, the subject that interests us the most.
The most interesting and important subject for you, me and everyone else, is the person we see in the mirror.
If you want anyone to listen to you, you must first bring to their attention what is in it for them. This, you must do quickly, within the first 30 seconds. If you delay, your listener will lose his interest. Keep this rule in mind and use it. Apart from that, here are 12 other tips you can use to keep your listener’s attention.
1. Plan your talk. Realize that your listener is doing you a favour by allowing you to take up his time, so you must your part in being prepared rather than aimlessly jumping from one subject matter to the other. Also, keep in mind the rule above.
2. Keep eye contact. This is important, as a lack of eye contact can and often deemed as a gestu
re of insincerity.
3. Vary your tone of voice. Have highs and lows, this will naturally attract your listener to pay attention to you.
4. Don’t speak fast or too slow. People usually talk fast because they worry that the listener will lose interest but when you do this, the message that you are trying to send is usually lost. Be moderate.
5. Match your body language to the words that you are uttering. Project energy and positiveness.
6. Talk in the language of your listener. What this means is that, if you are talking to 10 year old school kids, you must strive to talk in a way they understand. If you are talking to farmers than your talk must suit them. Connect with your audience and they will connect with you.
7. Proper use of language. In whatever language you are talking, you should try your best to use that language properly. Use the right pronunciation and grammar.
8. Tell stories. Humans love stories and if you can weave a story or two in your talk it will help to keep the attention of your listeners.
9. Be interested. Be genuinely interested in the other person, in your audience and you will be rewarded.
10. Use silence. Yes, clever use of silence can go a long way in keeping the interest of your listener.
11. Always get your facts right. Leave out the things that you are not sure. This is vital to build your credibility.
12. Relax and smile. Your nervousness will cause your listener to feel the same and will affect negatively on you.
We all want to be admired. We want to be appreciated. We all want to feel important. This is true for everyone. This is what you must keep in mind when you talk to anyone. And most importantly, when you want people to listen to what you have to say, you must remember one thing, the subject that interests us the most.
The most interesting and important subject for you, me and everyone else, is the person we see in the mirror.
If you want anyone to listen to you, you must first bring to their attention what is in it for them. This, you must do quickly, within the first 30 seconds. If you delay, your listener will lose his interest. Keep this rule in mind and use it. Apart from that, here are 12 other tips you can use to keep your listener’s attention.
1. Plan your talk. Realize that your listener is doing you a favour by allowing you to take up his time, so you must your part in being prepared rather than aimlessly jumping from one subject matter to the other. Also, keep in mind the rule above.
2. Keep eye contact. This is important, as a lack of eye contact can and often deemed as a gestu
3. Vary your tone of voice. Have highs and lows, this will naturally attract your listener to pay attention to you.
4. Don’t speak fast or too slow. People usually talk fast because they worry that the listener will lose interest but when you do this, the message that you are trying to send is usually lost. Be moderate.
5. Match your body language to the words that you are uttering. Project energy and positiveness.
6. Talk in the language of your listener. What this means is that, if you are talking to 10 year old school kids, you must strive to talk in a way they understand. If you are talking to farmers than your talk must suit them. Connect with your audience and they will connect with you.
7. Proper use of language. In whatever language you are talking, you should try your best to use that language properly. Use the right pronunciation and grammar.
8. Tell stories. Humans love stories and if you can weave a story or two in your talk it will help to keep the attention of your listeners.
9. Be interested. Be genuinely interested in the other person, in your audience and you will be rewarded.
10. Use silence. Yes, clever use of silence can go a long way in keeping the interest of your listener.
11. Always get your facts right. Leave out the things that you are not sure. This is vital to build your credibility.
12. Relax and smile. Your nervousness will cause your listener to feel the same and will affect negatively on you.